Part #2. How I found my passion and started my own business.
Step-by-step guide for those who want to do the same.
Previously I started a series of posts about my online business journey where I shared the very first step that I took to change my life – acknowledged my results and accepted the fact that if I continue to do some things, I’d get the same results.
From there everything started to change slowly.
I am a big fan of a holistic approach to everything, especially when it comes to my life.
Harmony is a very important part of self-realisation. So, there is no doubt for me that trying to fix one area of life can lead to a decline in another.
However, it is also fair to say that fixing one area of life, can also boost up many others.
I’ll give you both examples.
When I move to New Zealand my aim was not to live in a beautiful country, but a strong developed country where freedom is respected and people are protected by law, there is no/minimal corruption and safe for my family to be.
Focusing on improving this aspect of my life I’ve compromised the time which I spent apart from my wife and kids. One year of my and their lives we spent apart.
It cost me something that I will never be able to return – watching how my kids were growing up.
Very high price.
There is another example.
When I came to a realisation that there is no time left for me to hope that my life would improve in the nearest future somehow, I looked at the areas of my life that sucked most of all.
If you remember from my previous post, it was my job.
Not hard to connect the dots that I was doing this job for only one reason – to pay my bills.
However, if you also remember, my financial situation was exactly the same – my salary could barely cover my bills.
We have a job to live, not live to do the job.
Well, in my case I found myself sacrificing most of my time to do the job which I hated to pay
This circle has negatively affected all other areas of my life: health, wealth, family, society, and self.
I’ve become grumpy, always tired, having a poor diet as I was always busy as the job becomes a priority number one because of the constantly growing demand, my level of stress skyrocketed and my level of energy was constantly going down because of it.
So, this is an example of how my choice to keep doing my job has affected all other areas of my life.
And I decided to fix this one particular area, assuming that if I fix it, everything else would go up also.
However, there was one important thing that needed to be considered – financial well-being.
I came to the conclusion that the only reason I was doing my job was money to pay my bills.
If I would have enough financial security, everything would change.
From there I had two ways to go:
– Find another job (which I did and succeed and failed again, but this is another story which I definitely will share with you later);
– Or to start my own business (it took me 2 more years to get there).
It became obvious to me that if I improve one area of my life the rest will follow and go up.
This area was – financial security.
If you read my story, I would know that I was working on a different level of corporate hierarchy and have a wealth of experience in corporate business management and leadership.
There is wealth in a corporate business. In a very top level of senior management.
This level is achievable and I could go there.
If I would continue to compromise my core value – freedom.
As I’ve mentioned above, I’ve been there and I know what is required:
– To please those who are higher in the hierarchy and never make them upset, so always say what they want to hear and agree with them;
– Disregards those who are at the lower level of the hierarchy (people in your team) as at the end of the day you can’t please both, so you have to pick your horse and ride it otherwise you will always be in between the hammer and the anvil, which is a direct path to poor mental health;
– Never say anything which is against the trend that comes from the top – the system is always stronger than the individual and if you are here to climb up a corporate ladder, accept the rules and do what your boss thinks is good to do.
– The majority always wins and there will be plenty of those around who would like to please your boss more than you, so you have to compete not by skills but develop a certain skill “how to please your boss better than others”.
…I’ve seen people who are carrying a bag of their boss to please the “almighty” one.
And the list of rules can go on and on, at the end of the day this is only my experience and I accept that other people can have different experiences.
What I know for sure is:
– If you trade your lifetime/skillset for money in a corporate, your financial security depends on someone else’s, not you.
– If you work for someone else, you must obey the rules which other people created for you –being in a frame, compromising your freedom and depending on your boss’s opinion on whether you are good enough or not. And every new boss has a different opinion…
So, my choice was obvious – to start my own business.
To live on my terms.
To do what I love.
To have the leverage to increase my income not by licking someone else’s a*se but by learning a skill of HOW TO MAKE MONEY, not to “earn” a salary.
All of it would holistically improve all other areas of my life, but…
It would only work with the right business model which would give me time, financial and geographical freedom.
None of the traditional business models would give me this level of freedom. None.
And I was almost ok with making the same mistake – sacrificing my time and geographical freedom for money by buying a franchise, but I was lucky enough to recognise the similarities between my old job and franchise business.
With only one difference, to start that type of business, I have to take a business loan and burden myself with even more financial responsibilities.
It often happens that big decisions are followed by fears.
When I couldn’t find an idea good enough to match my freedom requirements, I told my wife:
“If by the end of this year I wouldn’t start my own business, I would print out promo materials and offer to clean houses in our suburb…”.
It was February 2021.
This decision to make whatever it takes changed my way of thinking.
I started to focus not on the problem, but on the solution.
If I could share with you the most powerful mindset trick, I would say that this is:
– FOCUS ON THE SOLUTION, NOT ON THE PROBLEM!
For me, this is the main principle of the Law of Attraction, not all this buzz about quantum mysticism.
That is how our brain works – it will give you a solution for whatever you are focused on.
If you focused on how miserable your life is, you will get more and more pieces of evidence of your miserable life.
If you focused on how to make your life better, your brain will give you more and more solutions for how to improve your life.
It is that simple.
The second step I did is I found 2 weeks of business training and booked myself in.
That’s how you deal with fears. You face them straight away and do what you can, but do, it immediately.
This training was free of charge subsidised by the government and their purpose was to explain to people how to start a business.
That simple step boosted my hope that I’m on a right track and I was looking forward to changes.
And this is that simple!
There are plenty of books, and courses online that can give you clarity about how to improve your life or how to start your own business.
Like the Free Training Series that I represent on behalf of the education company, I’ve got my skills.
By doing such small and affordable steps, your mind becomes more open to new opportunities and you start to see them where you could never recognise them before!
My mind has started to open up to new opportunities.
And I started to look for more and more information about how to start a business and what business models are matching my requirements.
In my next post, I will share with you a questionable meditation experience that I believe played a huge part in my journey…
… And how did I finally find my passion.